Chapter 3
Secrets of female sexuality

After the wedding night. He:

– Honey, I realize that I’m not the first!

She (smoking):

– Yes. And I realize that you’re not the last…

I have to say that the woman’s sexuality is a largely unexplored topic. And as more men are interested in it as more myths appear. Considering this topic from a physiological point of view, I will note that the effect of sex on marital life is extremely important for a woman.

When you first meet a woman, you pay attention to her external signs of sexuality: bosom, legs, waist. But this is only the top of the iceberg, and a completely inexperienced woman who knows nothing about her sexuality can be hidden behind external maturity.

What do you need to try to learn first?

1. Does she have any health problems (gynecology, thyroid gland, vascular diseases, diabetes mellitus)?

Do not be shy! Of course, these questions should be asked very correctly, but it’s impossible without them, because the health of her and her children is at stake. If there are problems, first of all she must heal and then plan to create a full-fledged family.

2. It is advisable to learn about her first relationship experience with a man: was it traumatic for her?

3. Does she have an orgasm?

4. What kind of sex does she prefer?

And let her laugh, but make her answer these key questions! Then you will understand how important it is to know because it will affect your whole life together. Let me explain why.

Women are great dreamers and actresses, but often this is what pushes them into the bottomless pit of lies and secrecy.

She is unpleasant, but she will depict pleasure. What for? Because it is accepted; in the stories of friends, movies, novels – everywhere they say that she should enjoy sex! And if it is not, then she must accept that not everything is all right with her. She is not accustomed to discuss these questions, there is practically no literature about this. I’m not talking about porn movies where every girl is a sex bomb with animal breeding instinct… Against this background, she really begins to feel differently – not like as it must be. He only touched her, and she already sighed and moaned, like she finished…

I'll tell you what you need to pay attention to, and what is not necessary.

She has already chosen you, which means that she undoubtedly likes you, and your task is «to be on top». Know and always remember that the main organ of pleasure is in her head! Yes, it is the place where the female orgasm is formed. And it is precisely this place that must be taken care of above all, rousing a woman. But from what place it will “flow” – that you will learn, having carefully studied it. The stuffed point G may not be between her legs at all, but somewhere under her knee or on her neck, and she can even change the dislocation… Study her, being very generous with your time, find out what she likes – tenderness, perseverance, speed or duration; in any case, I can say: the main thing – do not hurry!

Try to study the massage – starting from the feet, smoothly moving upwards along the body, gently stroking and cheering her on sexual exploits with soft movements. A woman is known to love with her ears, so do not forget to tell her how special, beautiful, and beloved she is. Do not forget to send her an SMS with declarations of love, but do not overdo it, otherwise she will think that you have nothing else to do. Pay special attention to her sleep: if a woman gets enough sleep, then her psychophysiological state will be in order and she will certainly try to please you too.

From a technical point of view, do not forget about additional ways to excite her: these are massagers and lubricants for intimacy with various pleasant effects, and sex toys, and everything that will help her to relax and enjoy as much as possible. Learn it: what touches her most? Eyes? Watch some erotic movie. Ears? Whisper to her, what a beauty she is. Touch? Often touch the most sensitive places, such women like kisses, strokes, touches… This is very important! Since few women dare to offer something new, basically the initiative comes from the man.

The attitude towards sex is very important in her family. Pay attention whether there is an atmosphere of openness between her parents. A girl who grew up in a complete family, where parents are not shy about showing their attitude towards each other – hugging, kissing, flirting – she will build the same relationship in your family.

Chapter 4
Sexual debut with a future wife: how does it differ from ordinary sex with a girl?

Life example

Revaz, an inexperienced boy of 20, had been dating 18-year-old virgin Anna for two years. They only kissed a couple of times. And, finally, their wedding day came… On the eve of the first wedding night, Revaz's father sat down for a “master class” in front of the television – to watch porn and talk about sex. The guy asked in surprise: “Dad, why are they screaming like that?” – “It's from pleasure,” he answered.

On the wedding night, Revaz passionately attacked his young wife. He perceived her screams as an expression of pleasure. The blood that appeared did not embarrass him either – he was sure that she was a virgin. After the third episode, she calmed down and no longer screamed – she died. In the forensic report, it was recorded that "as a result of a woman's vaginal spasm, which was overcome by a man by force, a rupture of the vagina was formed."

The young husband didn’t know that the girl also had hemophilia.

Is it a sad story? Yes, it is. And the same mistake – they were talking but not about that… So, if you want your first experience to be positive, you need to do the following:

– I repeat, you should know the nuances related to the health of your bride;

– treat her like a crystal vase: gently and carefully.

The debut of your sexual relationship will be remembered forever, so you should take care of the details: scented candles, quiet music, tasty wine, new bed linen.

The main thing is not to be led to her tricks, even if she is rushing you so that she won’t be able to “average” your sexual relationship. Know that women don't leave such a man, they always remember him, they think about him and are very afraid of losing.

The woman has a great need for tenderness. Drawing pictures full of sexual fantasies, she imagines caresses, kisses and gentle touches in her head. It relaxes a woman and gives her pleasure, which she likes to remember later.

Remember about contraception! Condoms and lubricants should always be kept handy – this is very important because your sex must be protected. Prevent an unplanned pregnancy, while you are not sure. It shouldn’t happen like in that joke: "One awkward movement – and you are a father." And do not hope for her in this matter: you are the main “giver”, and it depends on you whether the child will be or not. It’s unusually to read, right? However, you must admit, this is true!

Carefully follow your beloved, for her mood and well-being. If she is not ready, postpone your debut until tomorrow, she will definitely appreciate it. You must be alone! No one should hear or see you. Close the door so that no one can enter.

It is assumed that you have to live a long and happy life with this person, take it as a rule to study her menstrual cycle, and also to find out during what period she is ovulating: you will understand her mood swings (women usually become more irritable several days before menstruation and during it). Moreover, you also need to know what day she is ovulating, if you don’t want to get a surprise in nine months.

As it was mentioned above, the harmony of marital relations to a certain extent depends on the motives of the future spouses to marry. Of course, it is believed that the overwhelming majority of men and women enter into a marriage union for love, but the strength of this feeling changes with age and under the influence of all sorts of adversities, therefore the main task is its preservation and multiplication. Key moments in life such as the sexual debut leave wonderful memories, and it will be an additional “bridge” for female love, so that it will not disappear.

And stop talking about her! Let’s talk about you. It usually happens that the first sex or the sex with a new partner is very confused and fast. It’s because of your hormones that are in a hurry to take advantage of the situation. As a result, you have premature ejaculation, if you just touch a naked woman.

So, what do you do? Should you be led by your hormones? Of course, but don’t do it spontaneously, try to prepare. In order not to become a “minute man” and not to look inexperienced and funny in the eyes of your partner, try to create suitable conditions for yourself:

– A glass of wine (do not overdo with alcohol, it is also a common mistake for inexperienced guys!);

– a darkened room (but not total darkness, you must see a partner);

– do not rush! Petting should be slow and gentle, it is necessary to increase the pace slowly, carefully listening to yourself. The main thing is to look at all her body kissing and do not hesitate to ask her for help if it is required;

– do not forget about the condom! You will not only protect yourself and your girlfriend from an unwanted pregnancy, but you can at least slightly reduce the sensitivity of the penis, which will be very useful in this case;

– do not forget about the lubricant: apply it on the condom after putting it on, this will add ease of sliding to you (and this is what prolongs sexual intercourse!) And it will add pleasant sensations to the girl.

If you have no experience at all or it is insufficient or unsuccessful, do not dwell on it, this is not a reason for complexes! Everything will come with time.

And I also want to add: you should know that the size and structure of the partner's vagina adapts a bit to a regular partner after a while, so your sex will be more and more pleasant for both of you each time, and let you do it as in that joke:

– You know, I want to admit to you, I have no experience at all, I am a virgin! I’ve dreamed only of you and saved myself for you!

I don’t even know what to tell you… Actually, I always like experienced men.

– And I am a very experienced virgin!